After reading that, watch this Ted Talk on sexual desire and long-term relationships.
Then, consider Matt Ridley's notion of Ideas Having Sex - innovation as social procreation, as it were.
Finally, read Rabbi Brad Hirschfield's piece on the desire for connectivity leading to pilgrimage, religion and as a byproduct, civilization.
Does desire bring people together in an equitable way? Not really. Desire, be it for power, for resources, for sexual gratification brings with it the need for domination. It's why a balanced "free market", otherwise known as "selection of the fittest", doesn't work in an interdependent social context, which we undeniably are (unless you are able to make your own clothes, grow your own food and sustain your own public infrastructure, which would be quite a feat).
Conversely, responsibility - the apparent opposite of desire - is about what you give back, not what you receive. When people collaborate in an understanding, trustful way (this can be a married couple, a company of soldiers or an office team) they create something that has greater reach through space and time than can an individual.
Who do we choose to surround ourselves with? Most of the time, those choices are out of our hands; we can mistrust the Other and live in desirous suspicion, or we can love our neighbours - a theme repeated throughout world religions.
Which makes me think of the Sufi maxim - "God is great, there is nothing but God, therefore I am God." Which is an ecstatic thought that can occur to people having dopamanic manias, pushing their pre-frontal cortexes beyond normal, beyond even individual safety.
But society isn't about the individual - it's about the social whole, a new system that's greater than the sum of its parts. You can't sustain a system if its components aren't properly maintained or pushed too far past their limits, which is what's happening in our society. At a point of increased tension, polarization and social friction, we're beginning to turn towards leaders who know how to serve as bridges, not battering rams, looking to see what places they can bring us to.
It's all fun stuff to think about - and share.
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