Coping with Horror and Loss

 

 

We mourned as a family the disruptions of the day, but we did so with symbols, without even knowing we were engaging in our own kind of therapy. The brain is funny that way; it can find the needle in the haystack of options. We’re wired for this, to some extent, as long as we don’t let fear rule.

 

All that advice? It matters. Stick to routines. Remind kids that the race is over. Allow children to ask questions. Support one another. Be kind.

 

But don’t fool yourself. They aren’t easy, these instructions.

 

And I’m supposed to be the professional.

 

 

Time heals some wounds.  It doesn't heal all of them.  Some wounds never go away.

 

You can't inoculate against grief - but we can stop violence. 

 

We.